Your first date with someone could be the beginning of a beautiful relationship. At the same time, it could turn out to be a total disaster. It is not what you do on your first date that can ruin things, it is the conversation. There are five topics which should never be brought up on a first date.
Politics
Unless you are a politician, politics should not be a topic of conversation on your first date. If you do not share the same political views that your date does, it can create animosity between the two of you. This can ruin a date early on. If things go well, and you have a few more dates, you can begin discussing politics. Leave the first date for more light conversations.
Your Ex
Talking about your ex is never good first date conversation. If you go on and on about how horrible your ex was, it will make it look like you are a bitter person, who cannot move past the problems that caused you to break up. If you have nothing but good things to say about your ex, your date will likely get the impression that you are not over them yet. This can keep you from getting a second date.
Your Past
Everyone has a past. Many people have things in their past, which they are not very proud of. The last thing that you want to do is air out your dirty laundry on a first date. There could be some things in your past, which you need to disclose later on in the relationship, however, the first date is not the time. The last thing that you want to do is scare your date off if there is a chance that the first date could lead to something long term.
Your Biological Clock
As women, and even some men get older, they hear their biological clock ticking. They realize that they are getting older, and it is time to settle down, get married, and start a family. While there is nothing wrong with having these thoughts, you do not want to talk about it on your first date. This type of talk can easily scare your date off. This conversation is best to have after a few months of dating.
Your Favorite Sexual Position
This is a good conversation to have when you feel close to someone, and you have already been intimate. It definitely is not first date conversation. If you start having this conversation on a first date, it could give your date the wrong idea. Your date may think that you are just looking for sex, and not a relationship. This can scare them off, and you can be sure you will not get a second date invitation. This conversation can backfire if your date takes what you are saying as an invitation for sex when the date is over. This can make things very awkward at the end of the date, when you must tell your date that sex is not on the agenda for the evening. When it comes to any talk about sex, you are better off waiting to have the conversation until you are actually ready to have sex.
Dating can be tricky. Knowing what you should and shouldn’t talk about on a first date can make you more comfortable, and can help you to get a second date.
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